A Little Compassion Conundrum For You…
A 15-year-old middle-class white girl has been groomed by a cult. She has left her family, seemingly willingly to join these people. This particular cult is known for violent rituals and sexual abuse. At age 19 she manages to escape and tries to reintegrate into society, she returns having had two children by one of the cult leaders. Would you send her back to the cult? Would you tell her she had made her bed and to lie in it? I can’t imagine you would. There would be compassion for her and most importantly her children.
Now let’s switch the compassion situation up…
There’s been a massive amount on social media this past week or so on the ISIS girl Shamima Begum and it’s made me realise that I live in a different world to a lot of people. I see the arguments on Facebook, TV clips and Newspaper articles and I understand the anger people feel towards her and others who have left to join ISIS, I do. I just don’t feel the anger that everyone else does. She was 15 years old when she left. Who knows if she was groomed. We don’t know the real psychology of what made her leave. Besides, we don’t know how vulnerable she was.
True, we don’t know what atrocities she may or may not have been involved in while she’s been gone. We also don’t know what atrocities she went through while she was there, we do know that she lost children due to sickness. Do we even know if these children or marriage or even sex were her choice though? Was she groomed for that? Remember she was 15 when she left. If she is let back into this country, she is likely to be imprisoned and lose her children. She will have an entire country against her. Her children will need their identities hidden. I feel there are a lot worse people than her costing taxpayers money if that’s your argument.
Why My World Is Beautiful
I’m not going to tell you what you should or should not be feeling or thinking or saying. I can only tell you what I feel, and I feel compassion. The whole story is unknown. She could be the worst person on earth, I have no clue. Therefore, any feeling coming from me that isn’t compassion or empathy would make me someone I’m not. All those people with hate in their hearts, for any reason, their world is not beautiful. Their world cannot be beautiful when you are pouring your own hate into it. I’m not naive and I’m not a sap, don’t get me wrong. I ask questions and look at proximate causes. I also understand that human behaviour has so many variable factors that nothing is ever black and white. Consequently, this is never a simple explanation. But…because I choose compassion, my world will always be beautiful.